Get a life. Stop making excuses for the way your life is now. Do not dwell on the past, or on what has happened to you. Life happens to everyone. Stop telling everyone the same old story – 80% do not care and 20% are glad it is you. Get a life! You have more going for you than you realize. Use it!

Create some positive things for yourself today. Believe that you can dream again, create once more, achieve another goal, laugh out loud and connect with life on a deeper level than you have ever done before. Life is waiting for you to explore it. Live full…Die empty! ~Les Brown

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When I read this on my Facebook, it really spoke to me. Even though I was in therapy for over 20 years to get over all of the abuse that I suffered, there are still times when those wicked memories raise their ugly heads and give me one heck of a time. Reading the percentage scale, let me know that even though some people seem to be interested in what you are telling them, it isn’t always true.

As far as the people that I have told my story to, I would have to say that maybe 10% of people that hear about me are interested and say that hearing what I had to say helped them. They realize that they are not the only ones to have ever experienced whatever aspect of my abuse that was the same as theirs. Then they read some of my therapy poems, and many times start crying, because they find out that it is possible to get through all of the horrid memories. Just knowing that I can help a few people makes me know that all that I went through was not in vain. I hope as I post many more articles that I will be able to speak to you also, and therefore help you in your healing.

If by chance you would like to read my therapy poems, please go to bjtherapy.com and you will see the poems that I am talking about. Before you actually go into the website, please read the disclaimer. I want it to be perfectly clear that I am not trained in any way to help people psychologically, and what I have written or will write in the future should in no way replace anybody actually seeing a psychologist or a psychiatrist. As I said earlier, I was in therapy for over 20 years and went to both very faithfully. There were also times that I had to be hospitalized due to everything becoming so hard that I just couldn’t cope without very intense help. BUT THERE IS ONE THING TO ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU HAVE TO DO WHATEVER IS GOING TO HELP YOU!!!!!!!  Different people respond to different things. You have to find out which is the best way for you to start having less and less bad memories, and more and more good feelings about yourself. THE THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO YOU WERE NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!!!!!!!

This world is a hard and often cruel place. we have to feel good about our self, because if we don’t there is no one else that is going to feel good about us for us. We have been through hell and come back. But we came back victorious. Had we not been strong, we would not have made it through like we did. Also, since we made it through, WE ARE WINNERS!!! We did not give up and quit.